Harvard's crowded course to happiness

是甚麼樣的一堂課，讓哈佛學生has enrolled 855 students? That is Dr.Tal Ben-Shahar's "Positive Psychology"! Dr. Tal will teach you how to Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting fulfillment in his latest book "Happier".


-中文翻譯書籍：更快樂-哈佛最受歡迎的一堂課（天下出版）


-Psychologist Abraham Maslow's quotes, "Generated by this new humanistic philosophy is also a new conception of learning, of teaching, and of education. Stated simply, such a concept holds that the function of education, the goal of education - the human goal, the humanistic goal, the goal so far as human beings are concerned - is ultimately the 'self-actualization' of a person, the becoming fully human, the development of the fullest height that the human species can stand up to or that the particular individual can come to. In a less technical way, it is helping the person to become the best that he is able to become."

-part 5. 設定目標

「目標只是手段，不是目的；真正目的是在追求目標過程中所帶來的快樂。」書中舉例，一位年輕人和一群老僧攀登喜馬拉雅山，年輕人是隊中最年輕的，卻是爬得最吃力的一位。因為這位年輕人一心只想完成攻頂，忽略享受登山的樂趣，也喪失繼續前進的欲望和體力。

目標應當扮演的角色是：『讓人毫無牽掛地享受當下。』只要腦海裡有個目的地，大概知道自己的行進方向，就能自由自在，聚精會神地享受當下。

-part 6. 教育上的快樂

學習動機有兩種模式：「一是溺水模式，二是做愛模式。」

『溺水模式』：渴望脫離苦海，或害怕失敗，所以用拼命三郎的方式唸書，等到考完試後就解脫了。

『做愛模式』：則是兼顧現在和未來的利益。把美好的閱讀、研究、思考時光當成做愛的「前戲」；而為某個問題找到解答看成做愛的「高潮」。

-part 7. 職場上的快樂

Abraham Maslow's quotes：「一個人最好的運氣和最大的福分，就是有人付錢請他從是他衷心喜愛的工作。」

運用MPS流程：意義-->樂趣-->專長，檢視哪些工作會使我們快樂。

-part 8. 感情上的快樂

心理學家布蘭登：「愛情最重要的互補關係是：除了照顧自己的利益，也要考慮對方的利益。」

養成每個月對你關心的人，至少寫一兩封感謝函的習慣。


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Flow proposed by psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi

2008.4康健雜誌報導一篇「七訣竅 自動自發學習」，其中提到 麻省理工學院媒體實驗室文化研究小組負責人米哈里

（Csikszentmihalyi）所著的《創造力》中，他研究全世界有
創意的人，發現他們有一個共通點，就是從小有過心流（flow）經驗，就是主動、專注而忘我的經驗。

- 1975年由心理學家 Mihály Csíkszentmihályi所提出

- 相關中文翻譯著作：快樂從心開始（天下出版）



- What is FLOW：

Flow is the mental state of operation in which the person is fully immersed in what he or she is doing, characterized by a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and success in the process of the activity.

-Components of FLOW:

1. Clear goals (expectations and rules are discernible and goals are attainable and align appropriately with one's skill set and abilities).
2. Concentrating and focusing, a high degree of concentration on a limited field of attention (a person engaged in the activity will have the opportunity to focus and to delve deeply into it).
3. A loss of the feeling of self-consciousness, the merging of action and awareness.
4. Distorted sense of time, one's subjective experience of time is altered.
5. Direct and immediate feedback (successes and failures in the course of the activity are apparent, so that behavior can be adjusted as needed).
6. Balance between ability level and challenge (the activity is neither too easy nor too difficult).
7. A sense of personal control over the situation or activity.
8. The activity is intrinsically rewarding, so there is an effortlessness of action.
9. People become absorbed in their activity, and focus of awareness is narrowed down to the activity itself, action awareness merging.


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